Grab a cup of coffee or tea, because this is going to be a long one friends..
Today is three years since I started my little space of the internet. I wanted to do something cool for this post, but I didn’t want to do the typical blowing confetti into the camera photos and balloons etc.. All that stuff is cute and would probably get way more repins and visitors than this one will.. But I want to be real with you guys, and I just want to open up and share my “story.”
Now before I get into the post, I hope you read the title because it says how I lost 50 pounds and got happy. I’m not saying this works for everyone, or I’m not trying to tell you what to do, this is what I did and what worked for me. Also, I am NOT saying you need to be skinny to be happy. AT ALL. I stared changing my thinking, my attitude and my outlook on life and because of that mentally and physically I began to change. I respected my life more and because of that I fed my body the right kind of nutrition and lightly exercised.
This was just something that was on my heart, and I felt like I needed to share.
So how did I do it?
You simply decide you are going to be happy.
I began to recognize my self-worth and dropped all negative people and negative influences in my life and started taking full responsibility for my life.
If you’re reading this, and you’re like yea Kristin that sounds like a good idea, but honestly, my husband/wife sucks, or my co-works are real a-holes, and my boss is always on my ass. I get that. I truly get that; I had people in my life who I think had a real joy of tearing me down and were trying to hold me back. But I’m sorry to tell you, you have 100% control over you feelings. You have the choice of when you walk into work; someone asks you how are you? You respond “I’m finee…” Then you go into this whole spiel of why you had a shitty morning because you stubbed your toe on the bathroom vanity and how you cracked your phone and how this bish on insta was flirting with your man.
If you start telling others you’re doing great or terrific or awesome you will start instilling this into your brain, and you will start to create circumstances and events that will make you feel happy, terrific, awesome etc..
When you get in your car turn off the radio because all, you have is someone rapping about ass or Nikki Minaj telling you, you’re basic. Turn off the radio and put on a good audio book or a good seminar. Something that will inspire and empower you. When you’re home grab a few uplifting books and audios. Zig Ziglar is great, Magic of Thinking Big is great. Just start flooding your brain with positive and uplifting things, and things will change.
I made the decision to surround myself with like-minded individuals who inspire me, who are motivated to do good things and who are really, lovers of life.
Now not to say that I don’t have my moments. I am human, I am not perfect what-so-ever. I do have my moments of frustration, but I pray hard for a lesson to be learned. Because life is life, and things happen but if we can take those situations and learn from them, I think then that’s a beautiful thing.
How I lost the weight.
So for me, with happiness weight loss sort of just happened. Backtrack to High school I danced a lot I was a competitive dancer, I loved it, it was my life, but I was always stuck in comparison. I was stuck with constantly comparing my body and my talent to other girls. In high school my highest weight was 175 lbs not saying that that’s a bad weight, it’s just where I was, and it was something that I was not comfortable with.
In high school, I ate alright. I mean, I enjoyed a big mac every now and then but for the most part I ate okay, and I was dancing almost every day. So I had a lot of exercising but could not seem to lose any weight.
But when I started visualizing the “dream” body I wanted and focused on how I wanted to feel, that is when physically I started to change. I made a dream board (not a Pinterest one) a physical dream board. I put images on there of people who looked happy, who had the body I wanted and had the confidence that I wanted. I would look at it and feel inspired instead of looking at it and think oh I don’t have that. I would stare at my dream board and tell myself yes. I can do this, I can have that, I am worthy of that.
With that, I exercised lightly, nowhere near the physical activity I did in High School though.
I also compared my knowledge to everyone around me, people in school, etc.. I was told by a teacher that I was dumbest student in my class. I had to study in a different room and take tests in a different room because I couldn’t concentrate and had major anxiety when people would get up and hand in their tests.. Doctors put me on all types of ADHD medication. I hated them; they made me a complete zombie my personality was numbed by them.. Soooo I began to flush them down to the toilet.. That was probably bad for the environment, and I’m sorry, but my 15-year-old self was too stupid to know that. Hah.
Anyways, it wasn’t until mid – end of senior year that I started listening to audios and reading books. I began to be obsessed with the information I was learning. It floored me how a thought goes into the universe and how it effects other physical matter. Learning about energy and learning how your thoughts can physically change the structure and molecules in water. This stuff BLEW my mind. I began to be obsessed with this. I ate, drank, slept information. (I would have headphones in and audios playing while I slept) I was a sponge, and I realized learning this information made me feel good. I began to be a positive, happy and uplifted person and more importantly, I started realizing my self-worth.
Then I began to bring in some amazing people in my life. Matt came into my life a year or so after. He is a Godsend and my angel. No joke, the first day we hung out I told him alllllllll about this stuff. Everything. I remember we sat in my bug for hours listening to music, and we just talked about anything and everything. I dunno how he didn’t think I was a wack. Haha
So I get that this seems like A LOT of fluff. If you want to learn about how the brain works go ahead and do that. But if you just want to make the decision to be happy, just start looking for the gold in “bad” situations. You will change, you’ll start finding the good in things and people by habit. You’ll create awesome things in your life, and I know you’re capable of that. You honestly have the power to be, do, and have anything you want in your life. The way you start is to take 100% responsibility for your life and to take small actions to becoming happier. This takes time; it’s one of those things that is a minute to learn and a lifetime to master. But you got this.
So all of this is kind of the reason why I started Sunny three years ago. I wanted a place to document things like this post, I wanted something to keep me inspired, happy and motivated and a way to keep me in check. I wanted a place where It would force me to constantly grow my knowledge to be able to share stuff like this with y’all! I hope you had a little take away from this and if you made it this far, seriously THANK YOU! You’re tha bomb.
If you want things in your life to change, you have to change things in your life.
Lastly, though you’re perfect. You’re here for a reason you’re wanting change in your life maybe this post was just planing the seed but I’d love for you to come join the cool gang in my private facebook group. Make sure you come join the gang here! It’s a group of amazing individuals who have that urge for something more, maybe its weight loss, maybe it’s a financial goal maybe its a business goal maybe it’s a relationship but I believe you are who you surround yourself with and I want you to come be apart of happy people. I want to create a space/community where we can all open up, share and relate. I think it’s important to have the support. I want to support you and I want you to support me so come join and hang out. Love you babeeeeezzz. xo
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